I have had this question asked many times by Christians. We live in a time where sexual perversity is at an all time high, and where pornography is freely available. Even primary school children are boasting about their experiences. But what does the Bible teach?
Origins of sex.
For this we have to go to the first book and chapter of the Bible. Genesis 1:28 “And God blessed them, and God said unto them, Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth, and subdue it: and have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over every living thing that moveth upon the earth.” From this we see that God instructed them to multiply, which meant bring forth one’s own offspring, before the fall. So to declare that sex is sin is a lie. Why did He institute sex? In order for the human race to grow, and that meant sex between a man and a woman. That was the way the LORD introduced sex, between a man and his wife, as Adam and Eve were man and wife.
What does the New Testament declare about sex?
Paul wrote extensively on this subject, and declares the following in 1 Cor. 7: “Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman. Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband. Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband. The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife. Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.” (1 Cor. 7:1-5) We see here that Paul emphasises that every man should have his own wife, and every woman her own husband, should they not be able to control their sexual desires. He also stated that neither man or woman have control over their own bodies, but that the woman have control over her husbands body and therefore have to respect her desires, and the husband over his wife’s body and therefore his desires.
What about sex outside the marriage?
Both scriptures quoted above declares that sex is meant for married people. That is it. We do not find consent for sex outside of the marriage, except later on in 1 Cor. 7: Verse 36 “But if any man think that he behaveth himself uncomely toward his virgin, if she pass the flower of her age, and need so require, let him do what he will, he sinneth not: let them marry.” (1 Corinthians 7:36) If sex does happen while two people are not married, the man must take the woman as his wife. No exceptions are allowed. Every other case is sin, and should be repented of. This means that one has to stop doing it. If you don’t that means that you are not repenting of the sin as you are continuing in it. While continuing with the sin, no forgiveness can be had. How does Paul define repentance in Romans 6: 14-16 “For sin shall not have dominion over you: for ye are not under the law, but under grace. What then? shall we sin, because we are not under the law, but under grace? God forbid. Know ye not, that to whom ye yield yourselves servants to obey, his servants ye are to whom ye obey; whether of sin unto death, or of obedience unto righteousness?” Paul points out in this scripture that when we repent of sin, we are saying that we will be obedient to the LORD, and that means to break with sin. I have to act on the Word. I must repent and conversion must take place. There is no room to say that we have to try it out and to see if we are sexually adaptive. No, what the LORD puts together, will be able to adapt. We cannot follow our own rules.
What about homosexuality?
This is a question that many parents are struggling with, as our children are reared where all types of individual rights are embedded in our constitution, which are totally incompatible with the Bible. We as Christians cannot accept these rights. Many so-called Christian magazines even proclaim that we must be tolerable towards this viewpoint. Some groupings even allow their leaders to practice this lifestyle, while other will even allow these people to marry. But, what does the Bible declare? “If a man also lie with mankind, as he lieth with a woman, both of them have committed an abomination: they shall surely be put to death; their blood shall be upon them.” (Leviticus 20:13) You may wonder why they had to be put to death? The Lord declared that it is a grievous sin, and that it should not be tolerated. As soon as it is tolerated, it would be accepted as approved. This is what happened in our lives. The true Church kept quiet, and it is now acceptable. To now say it is acceptable, is a lie. Paul also wrote about this subject to the Romans. “For this cause God gave them up unto vile affections: for even their women did change the natural use into that which is against nature: And likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust one toward another; men with men working that which is unseemly, and receiving in themselves that recompence of their error which was meet.” (Romans 1:26-27) Now we still wonder where AIDS comes from.
Let me use an example. The homosexual person might use the argument that they have a different preference when it comes to sex. It sounds pretty logical. But what about the person who also has a different preference, in that they prefer children? In our law such a person is declared a paedophile, and normally receives a very heavy jail sentence. But when it comes to homosexuality, I have my rights. It is proclaimed in our constitution. Both preferences are the same, the one children, the other, a person from the same sex. This way we all fall into the trap prepared by Satan.
But what about the person who lives such an exemplary life? They only have this one little thing in life. “Nevertheless, if thou warn the wicked of his way to turn from it; if he do not turn from his way, he shall die in his iniquity; but thou hast delivered thy soul.” (Ezekiel 33:9) This scripture tells us that many people will end up in hell, because they do not turn from sin. Only people who repent and turn from sin, in other words, become born again, will be saved. I might sound like a prophet of doom, but that is what the Word of the LORD declares. To put your trust in the patience of the LORD, is to lie to yourself. The LORD declares His love to those who seek Him earnestly, with their whole heart, and with everything in them.
In our experiences we have found that most people with homosexual tendencies, were molested early on in their childhood. Close friends or relatives of the family molested the majority of these people. People you would not expect. Such a person needs help. They should go to their pastor or other Christian counsellors who have experience in handling these situations. These persons would typically lead them in a prayer of repentance, to forgive the person that molested them, and to declare that what happened to them was sin. Even though they had no control over it, they have to declare that the deeds itself were sin, and that they should receive forgiveness for this. This is normally the only action required to set the wheels in motion. The LORD will then bring to the light all the sin that happened as a consequence of this, and forgiveness will be required for every action as a result of the initial molestation.